Receiving and Giving Feedback
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I like receiving and giving feedback and I cannot lie.
Receiving Feedback
Constructive feedback is the only way that I really know how to grow. I’m the type that just goes out and does it. Then when someone comes along who is generous enough with their time to offer me feedback, I eat that up!
Of course, I’ll weigh it out to see if it measures up to what I know or what I’ve learned over the years. It ould be a new way I’ve not been exposed to just yet that would work better. I’ll google it and/or ask around to see if their input makes sense. Test it out if it’s not too big of a gamble to see if it actually does work better.
Even if I don’t ask for it, don’t beat around the bush, just give it to me straight. I guarantee that you will NOT hurt my feelings. From the smallest to the biggest feedback, I want it all!!! YES. YES. and YES. Receiving isn’t hard for me.
Giving Feedback
Giving constructive feedback is a whole other ballgame for me though. I need to be asked for feedback. Unless we have a tight long-lasting relationship where we expect feedback from one another, I need to be asked.
If you asked me for feedback on something a month ago and then you do a different project that you would like feedback on from me, I’m gonna need ya to ask for feedback again.
Absolutely super happy to give my feedback, I love guiding others to success. Collaborating to see their project thrive and to see them grow! LOVE it!! However, I need your permission to do so.
I’ll take it whenever and almost from whoever, but I can’t give it like that. Is that a double standard? Who knows? It is what it is as us GenXers like to say. lol
Bottom line is, enhancing collaboration and growth takes constructive feedback in my opinion.
What are your thoughts on constructive feedback? Do you enjoy receiving, giving, or both?
That’s great that you have people in your life to offer constructive feedback!! I don’t have that and maybe it’s why I crave it so much.
Thanks for loving this one, I appreciate that.
I wrote a SubStack about my idea of the current civil war going on in the USA right now.
I asked my partner to read it. He did. And he wanted to know what kind of feedback I wanted?
I told him I wasn’t expecting him to taking time and edit it, but I welcomed feedback if he had any. And he offered fantastic feedback!
A comma, a changed word, and an overall concept (he really liked it). And maybe some other minor stuff. It was all minor and I loved that he liked the piece.
And afterwards, he expressed happy dismay that I was okay with ALL of the feedback! He hasn’t encountered someone who didn’t take the feedback personally, but wanted feedback for purposes of improving [what I had written].
I was as startled as he was, to realize that taking feedback and running with it to improve is apparently not as common as we think, or very common among the people we have met in our lives.
I realized, in that moment with him, that it was all the English writing classes I had taken in college that got me cool with receiving feedback on my writing, generally speaking.
(I do have one reader who gives me feedback on almost every issue and they promise me they aren’t being critical. I guess I do need to work on this. Hm. Maybe I need to get myself in to the mode of “I am asking for feedback” after I write something on SubStack. That’s what these comments here are for - aren’t they? To get feedback on what we have written?)
Speaking of which, Lori, I love this issue. Thank you for writing it on the JEL-Collaborative !